Hello Englishman:
This topic goes hand in hand with mine in a way, on "why did you want to be reinstated?" as it shows clearly the effects this heartless, vile practice has on people and their families.
You asked very good questions:
Is your anger with the JW religion due mainly to the fact that you have been DF'd?
I was df'd several years ago even though I too was repentant, suffered through the humiliation to be reinstated all the while fearing that my ill father was going to die before I could spend some time with him. So yes, my anger, in the beginning of my path to inactivity, has a lot to do with the df'ing policies and the lack of consistency with the judgements of elders. It also has to do with the effect the shunning enforcement has on the df'd one and the family.
I'm not shunned now, but my da'd son is, by the rest of our family and it tears me apart practically on a daily basis to see the effect that has on my daughter who follows the WTS belief that it should cause him to "see the error of his ways" and also, to see my son suffer the humiliation of the extent the family will go to, to avoid being where he is, at some family event.
Is it possible that persons who post here who are not disfellowshipped can feel as angry as those who are being shunned and who are therefore being effectively gagged?
Yes again. My anger since my inactivity has grown to a point I never knew could exist in me, as a result of finding out all the hypocrisies and falsehoods the WTS has forced onto the r&f through the old guilt trip routine of "We have God's spirit. The spirit says this and that. You are spiritually weak if you doubt it."
Everytime I think I've heard it all, I get hit in the gut with another load of stupidity coming from their pompous, self-righteous mouths. I want to scream from the rooftops about all the injustices and the senseless, needless hurt the WTS is guilty of, and even though I'm not df'd and therefore effectively gagged, I might as well be gagged, since to open my mouth against the WTS would cause my family to enlist the "aid of the elders to help me see the light". We all know where that help would lead....right out the door.
To those that know me personally, know I usually have a happy, sunny disposition, but the WTS causes an inner, dark anger in me that I have to work hard on to keep at bay.
Is the DF'ing policy of the WTBTS the main reason that ex-JW's seem to go all out to get other witnesses out of the org? Would you try to get someone to leave if you had the opportunity?
I don't know if the df'ing policy is the main reason, but its right up there. I want my family out from under the thumb of control of the WTS!!!
I don't want to see any of them or anyone else die from their stupid enforcement of the blood policy over some totally erroneous interpretation of a scripture, or another abused child's life ruined because of an organization's obsession with their image.
I don't want to see my family or anyone else waste their time and heart on a pack of empty promises like I did. But if I say anything....I'm the one that is considered wrong. I already have had good success, along with the help of another friend, to enlighten a couple of other dear friends and yes I will continue to look for an opportunity to try to open the eyes of my family and others.
If you had been allowed to quietly cease associating without penalty, how would you then feel then about the JW faith?
I would still be angry at the control the WTS has on people's lives through the rest of their rules and regulations that can be harmful in a person's choices on lifestyles and health. It's too hard to keep quiet when a few men running an organization have that much control without having any accountability for their claims, but I'm not on an obsessive vendetta. Rather, I'm guided by a deep desire to present only facts as my proof of the ills of the WTS.